Caregivers too need TLC!
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Written by Betabee 08 February 2009 21:44
I had to have emergency surgery for post-menopausal bleeding after 7 years of no show. This was last week of December. The day I came home from hospital, my bipolar husband was the patient and I was the caregiver! The six days of my hospital stay, the worrisome situation with a suspected malignancy in my uterus and the daily grind of trudging up and down from home to hospital all extracted their pound of flesh and he collapsed with vomitting and high fever.
His physician said it was a combination of exhaustion and anxiety.
Understandably we have both been traumatised having had to go through it all on our own as our children could not make it.
Son is in the USA and was not able to fly out all of a sudden. Daughter was just recuperating from adult chicken pox and could not travel from Hyderabad.
Life is like that, my kid tells me. Does it have to be like that? Cant we have it our way for once?
Beyond a certain point it becomes routine for the young ones. But for the older generation, every turn for the worse demands a bigger price.
What if things had not gone as they did, I wonder.
What is the problem here? Was my situation not important enough to merit a visit in such dire circumstances?
Or is it that I am expecting too much?
Hope it is not a question of ego.
With conflicting thoughts and fear for the future...
Betabee